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Hey badboyls, it's great that you recognize where you're at. There is great value in recognizing this.

Regarding your first question, no girls for you until you can be happy first. Kinda sucks, but, a fact of life. Sure, there can be exceptions. Maybe you'll connect with a girl, both of you who are trying to become happier. I also know people in relationships that can't find happiness in themselves, so they feel empty even though they have a girl or a guy, which ever the case may be.

If you don't feel like doing affirmations, you can take a break, that's cool... just get back to them eventually.

Regarding wanting your goals manifested... it takes patience, and your patience will be tested, which is why you will need faith, and trust that your goals will come true. Just realize, you can't force it; it will come to you, so accept it when it does.

Hello,

"how can one feel happy?" and "how does one build confidence"
For me both things are connected. I feel really happy when I face my fears and accomplish my personal goals. When I succeed it builds up my confidence.

"certainly having a lot of women or money or cars wont make u happy.but doesnt lack of it make one unhappy.im unhappy cause ive not achieved my goals which i thought i would achieve."

Honestly it depends on the way you think. I personally think you need a balance in health, wealth and relationship to be totally satisfy. People that only focus on money usually miss relationship that's why they feel unhappy.

Affirmations work well in building slowly your internal thoughts. You need to be persistant, lay back and relax. They work but you shouldn't worry if you are becoming more cool or whatever. It's when you stop thinking about all of that when you start becoming.

I know how hard it is to stop thinking about women. If you don't have hobbies, you should find some to waste your free time and that you really enjoy. It will help you on two things;
First you wont be thinking about women so much. Another is when you enjoy doing something your totally focus on it and your not thinking about anything else besides on what your doing and that's what being in the moment is.

Having creative outlets has helped me grow as a person.

Two of my favorite hobbies are cooking and painting. They give me several things to do at home and sometimes in the community (cooking classes, art shows, art classes, etc). If I went to an art class for example, I wouldn't be there to "pick up women", i would actually be engaged and interested.

Who knows man maybe you would like writing poetry and reciting it at a night club? Or join a dance class and learn some moves that will boost your dancing confidence. If money is an issue watch youtube and learn dance moves that way, there are tons.

Confidence is also build by doing and taking steps to achieve one's goal and getting to the destination but I think spike nailed it.

Quote from Spike on January 24, 2012, 22:49
I was looking at some of my old notes and "re-discovered" that in order to have happiness, one needs to master his emotions.

A balance of confidence and well-being leads to happiness.

Confidence is built by being courageous. Well-being is created by being assertive to get your needs met.

Happiness = self-esteem.

Woah I never had happiness broken down that way, but that makes perfect sense.. I noticed that now that I have more self-esteem, by using affirmations, I naturally am more assertive.. as well as courageous. Maybe it's because once you have self love/self esteem you don't really care much for other ppl's opinions and take more action as well as pursue your goals..