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MR O
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Post Mindfullness question for spike
on: October 28, 11:47

One of the most recent things ive done that have really helped me is practicing mindfulness in day to day basis . Mindful for every breath, walk, smell, sound etc...in essence living for every moment with gratitude. The issue with many of us guys is we are way too analytical and try to rationalize everything we are in our heads most of the time. Being in the moment is the key to being great with women and being at your best.

Question for spike: what is your view on meditation and mindfulness practice? in your ebook you made little suggestions on how we can practice living in the moment. Can you briefly explain how you overcame overthinking to being in the moment and how do feel nowadays are you always feeling your breath, inner body etc.

thanks
Spike
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Post Re: Mindfullness question for spike
on: October 29, 09:44

Hey Mr. O., you're right about intelligent guys being too analytical... as this is what prevents their success with women.

Switch your mind from thinking to feeling and you will be great with women.

What I do now is simply try to make girls feel good... e.g., by looking in their eyes and smiling... and not wanting anything more than making them feel good. When you do this, it's amazing how many girls will want you. Some girls warm up to me instantly... other girls, who I see on a regular basis in my day-to-day life, have taken over a year to warm up to me... but they key is they warm up when they realize that I make them feel good.

Hope this takes you to the next level.

Spike
MR O
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Post Re: Mindfullness question for spike
on: October 29, 13:32

Thats a very interesting point, i have realized that when I am happy, feeling good etc.its almost like women want to make eye contact with you to get those feelings as well, they are attracted to the energy.

I feel having the mindset of not being guaranteed tomorrow and gratitude for every breath and generally being alive is key to being happy and living for the moment.

Your advice is great but I am still interested in your responses to my questions?

thanks
Kkr
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Post Re: Mindfullness question for spike
on: October 29, 14:32

I've experienced that when I was 100% in the moment, happy and ego-less I was experiencing connection with beautiful women very often. I remember this particular event when I let go of wanting to achieve this abundance of women and only started to watch my thoughts - that's when things started to happen. Back then I was really happy without wanting anything... I think answer to everything is letting go, being in the moment and disidentification from the voice which is talking in your head. But that's only words, you won't understand this feeling until you experience it...

MR O
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Post Re: Mindfullness question for spike
on: October 29, 16:19

kkr your response experience is exactly what i am looking to live like for most of my life. I know its all about being 100% in the moment and happiness....thats the basis of my question to spike. What did you do or were you doing to stay at this very often and to LET GO? were you practicing meditation, doing a lot of things in your life you loved etc...you must have been doing things completely different from other men.
thanx
Spike
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Post Re: Mindfullness question for spike
on: October 29, 17:18

Mr. O, the way I overcame otherthinking is I created a new affirmation for the specific situation each time I caught myself in my head, aka over thinking.

For example, if I caught myself hesitating to flirt with a pretty girl, I'd create an affirmation along the lines of "I flirt with pretty girls as soon as I notice them." The technique worked.
MR O
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Post Re: Mindfullness question for spike
on: October 30, 04:23

Thanks spike ...however you have to admit that overthinking may not necessarily sometimes have anything to do with women or be negative. Sometimes our thoughts can rush to past or future or commenting on the present ....and even then some thoughts can be relatively neutral or positive. for instance I can be walking down the road and positive thoughts of excitement about something im about to do may pop up. Those are the ones im talking about and there are way too many of them to create affirmations for every single one.

Generally when Im having fun I tend to overcome hesitation even if I havent created affirmations for it; almost like by instinct as men we already know what to do . Thanx for your response spike....I am looking to picture what you are like in real life...are you always feeling happy and smiling etc?
Spike
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Post Re: Mindfullness question for spike
on: October 30, 23:56

Hey Mr. O, thinking about stuff happens to me when I'm on a mission... that's when women really notice me, i.e., when I'm focused on something other than women. The key is to notice when a woman finds me attractive while I'm focused on other stuff... and yes, I pick up on it. You can use affirmations for this too.
DmD
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Post Re: Mindfullness question for spike
on: November 1, 05:59

"I remember this particular event when I let go of wanting to achieve this abundance of women and only started to watch my thoughts - that's when things started to happen. Back then I was really happy without wanting anything"

I'm interested in finding my inner Self, my true Self, and I want to know more about this event in your life. Can you please share the whole story ?

Kkr
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Post Re: Mindfullness question for spike
on: November 1, 11:18

Well I remember being really desperate from wanting women... You know I just got into university campus and hot chicks all around, then on day I thought to myself "whatever" and completely let go of wanting and started practising what author in one book recommended, started watching my thoughts knewing that those thoughts aren't mine, just being an observer... And then stuff started to happening, those hot connections which Cory and Spike are talking about. But hey you can't really describe it... I could recommend a book or two but Spike I think wouldn't like that. Maybe in PM?
john234
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Post Re: Mindfullness question for spike
on: November 1, 15:42

hey kbr... what would be this book... this sounds interesting... I think i have seen something similar to this... obviously this is what cory and spike talk about but would be curious about that book to read... what did you practice in the one book recommended? how do you watch your thoughts? when you get a bad thought do u just stop it? please expound on this... :)

MR O
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Post Re: Mindfullness question for spike
on: November 1, 17:22

John 234 I hope your careful about interpreting what Kkr said. It might appear like all he had to do to have these hot connections frequently was to observe his thoughts....(i know the book hes talking about it really helps to practice living the moment) but thats only one piece of the puzzle. What im more interested in is the lifestyle Kkr was living to allow him "let go " of wanting women, thats the key.
Spike
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Post Re: Mindfullness question for spike
on: November 1, 21:06

@Kkr, regarding sharing information I'm okay with it, but only if the information is pure (for lack of a better word).

You see, the reason I created AMF was to give people the truth, especially people who've been tricked into following 'pickup artist community' un-natural self-destructive techniques that hurts both the guys trying the techniques and the girls they interact with.

So, if the information is pure, I'm okay with you sharing it here. But please use your intuition (deepest true gut feeling) to guide you.

@everyone: If you are considering following anyone's advice, I advise the same, please use your intuition to guide you to determine which advice is worth following. Pick your mentors wisely.
john234
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Post Re: Mindfullness question for spike
on: November 2, 09:36

hey mr o... what is this book? i really think its key to live in the moment as well as have a good lifestyle... i have looked at other books like 'the secret' and other types of stuff... what is this book to which you are referring? thx man...

MR O
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Post Re: Mindfullness question for spike
on: November 2, 11:42

John234 with full respect to Kkr ill leave it to him to suggest the book to you and take full credit. What Im trying to put across to you is that practicing living in the moment (i.e observing thought, feeling breath etc.) is no where enough on its own. The idea is to create a life style where your enjoying everything you do and feel good so you naturally, automatically live in the moment. The basis of me starting this thread was to draw out of spike his lifestyle which allows him to live in the moment, be happy and just "let go."
Spike
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Post Re: Mindfullness question for spike
on: November 2, 13:47

Hey Mr. O, I think I understand your question even better now.

I started living in the moment after setting and pursuing my personal goals. Most of the time I am "on a mission" to accomplish something.

For example, today my mission was to organize my home, get a haircut, do my banking, and generally take great care of myself. While I was out and about, I noticed two men admiring me (not in a sexual way, thank goodness). One guy was looking at me when I was driving and stopped at a stop light; another guy was paying attention to me when I was in the barber shop - I made eye contact with both of them, and it was very comfortable - a respectful manly connection of respect. I didn't notice any women admiring me today (not that it didn't happen), but it doesn't matter at all to me when I'm on a mission. Last week, however, I got hit on big time by a woman (I had just met her, and a while later she was hinting for me to go with her so she could show me her bedroom). She was visibly disappointed when I didn't bite on her offer. Now that I've got a beautiful, intelligent girlfriend (my dream), I feel little desire to mess around with other girls... basically no need to... but I still enjoy knowing that I've made myself so attractive that multiple women desire me, which also means that my girlfriend finds me highly attractive (which, by the way, she tells me all the time).

The trick, when being on a mission to accomplish things, is to recognize when women are desiring me (and for that matter, when other men are admiring me).

I know I had a similar response above, but now I'm hopefully explaining it in a slightly different way.

Hope this helps.
john234
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Post Re: Mindfullness question for spike
on: November 2, 14:01

hey spike... the one thing i noticed about you from your videos is you seem to have a niceness about you... dont know if you are doing this because of the videos... etc. I have to say that I would not in a million years think you are a ladies man because of your demeanor that I saw on the tapes... its funny but i can see how you have this "aire" about you... from what i thought it looked as being nice or even kinda geeky... BUT thats not the case. I think it shows you are genuinely happy with your life and women really see this.... i wonder if thats the key... also being attractive is important as well... being a good body size.. etc... which is what i am working on... let me ask you this... i have been afraid to weight myself because i dont want to know my weight... i had been going my clothes but in doing this... its easy to lose track if you have gained a lot of weight because of your clothes stretching... what do u and swappa think? i think if i weighed myself i would know and would know what is working and what is not working as far as losing weight... plus it gives u a measure /goal so you know what to shoot for...

one last thing...what were your personal goals btw?

thx spike

mike
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Post Re: Mindfullness question for spike
on: November 2, 15:32

Yes, I am genuinely happy. Earlier today when I was out and about running my errands, I recall feeling happy all the time. If I had to break down how happy I am: 5% of the time I'm extaticly happy, 70% of the time, my regular happy self; 20% of the time neither happy or sad; 5% of the time sad. Since I'm human I feel all feelings... so basically 75% of the time I'm happy. As it happens, I'm happy right now. Nobody wants to be around a "sour puss" except maybe another "sour puss." (A little girl once told me that... and it's true.)
MR O
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Post Re: Mindfullness question for spike
on: November 2, 18:12

Finally Spike im getting some juicy information from you haha.I believe you have subconsciously internalized so much of this stuff that its going to take more than one question from anyone to draw it out of you (not your fault)
Yes I also experience the days of manly mutual respect....and sometimes ego based guys look at you as competition; but generally a nod after eye contact. Not coincidently those are also the days women give you most attention.

What I got from you is ...Its very important to remain present whilst on mission and observe surroundings and interact in non-needy way i.e walking from point A to B. Your able to do this because you have "let go" and are happy with your life now, you must have disidentified from your thoughts. What I find fascinating about you is the fact that you set goals for future but yet remain in the moment whilst pursuing your goals.

The funny part is your probably practicing meditation unconsciously to keep you in moment, feeling your inner body, breath, in tune with your senses, observing your mind etc. on top of that you feel happy, sexy and grateful correct me if im wrong spike?:)
DmD
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Post Re: Mindfullness question for spike
on: November 3, 08:54

"What I find fascinating about you is the fact that you set goals for future but yet remain in the moment whilst pursuing your goals."

I believe you are able to do that, becouse you know for a fact that you will achive wahetver you desire, without any doubt. It's like - between you and your goal, is only faith that you will achive it, and are ready for it. And the byproduct of that is peace of mind, totally relaxed, enjoying the moment, not giving a fuck. Is this correct ?
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